Conference and Fall

The first Saturday and Sunday in October and April are my favorite weekends. They are when the fall and spring Conference Sessions for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are broadcast. Yesterday, we spent the day watching conference with my Mom and Dad. Between the first and second sessions, we ate lunch together. The hotdogs were fried in a skillet, placed on a bun with ketchup, mustard, finely chopped onions, and topped off with sauerkraut. Deli salads are not my favorite, but we had a variety of sides to choose from – macaroni, red potato, and coleslaw – along with cottage cheese and cut strawberries, as well as a veggie tray.

After both sessions were over, we baked Pilsbury biscuits to go with my homemade potato soup for dinner. My soup never tastes the same as my mom’s, dad’s or paternal grandma’s. I like garlic flavor in mine, ½ and ½, potatoes, bacon, garlic, onion, celery, carrots, Better Than Bullion, chicken flavor, salt and pepper. Theirs is a simple flavor of canned cream, potatoes, bacon, onion, celery, salt, and pepper. It’s the canned cream. It makes all the difference.

Sitting there in the house where I grew up, eating dinner with my husband and elderly parents, I realized that every day spent with my parents is a gift. My dad seems old. He is still sharp, but the edge is dulling a bit. All of the medications that are used to “help him” feel his best, I suspect, are affecting his quick thinking. The meds have not affected his desire and ability to talk…and talk…and talk…and spend quality time with his family, however. I am grateful for him and my mom and the days we get to spend together.

Today, I thought my husband and I would spend a quiet Sunday at home listening to Conference. My husband had a moment of spontaneity, though, and said he wanted to go for a drive somewhere today. He didn’t care where. He just wanted to go for a ride together. It was a cloudy, cool fall day, a great day for a drive. I planned a route that would take us on a 5-hour loop through several small towns in Wyoming, and loop us through older towns in the southern part of east Idaho.

Starting out later than anticipated, mid-morning, with my husband’s metal detector in hand and jackets on, we decided to go a different route, including what was supposed to be a 30-minute side trip to the old pioneer townsite of Chesterfield, Idaho, which was settled in 1881. It is a ghost town now.

After waiting for about 45 minutes for the stopped train to move past the railroad crossing over the road in Bancroft – the only way to our destination – we arrived at one of the buildings where visitors often meet prior to touring the old townsite of an old mercantile, “gas station” and homes of the settlers. Today, the visitor’s building was closed.

In front of the meeting house, my husband found an old square-head nail and a couple of bent screws. It was clear to us how well-made the old nail was compared to the more modern screws. While we were searching for potential “treasures,” the dark clouds in the distance, the thunder rumbling through the air, and the cold wind picking up urged us to stop looking. We returned to the pickup, turned up the heater, and headed back the direction from which we came.

My husband said he had a wonderful day and wondered if I enjoyed my time riding and enjoying the scenery to which I affirmed. The drive was relaxing. The changing colors of the trees amidst the evergreens were breathtakingly beautiful. Autumn has arrived. Listening to the uplifting words of our prophet and apostles was comforting. It was a wonderful day! Fall has always been my favorite season!

This photo says Idaho!!
A red bed of trees
Storm clouds in Chesterfield, ID
Autumn in Idaho

What Is It About Birthdays?

Happy Birthday!

September 5th. A special day to celebrate. Our family has had three birthdays already this month and one early celebration today. My mom’s youngest sister of six siblings turns 60 next month. She and another sister are here for a visit from Alaska.

My aunt does not look 60-years-old. Nor does she act sixty. She is as bubbly and full of life today as she was cheering for the high school sports team back in the day. Never able to have a child of her own, her spunk and easy infectious laughter will not be passed down through the generations. However, everyone who comes in contact with her, leaves feeling better for having known her. Her friendly, life-of-the-party type of personality draws people to her happiness. They find themselves relaxing and laughing right along with her funny antics or comebacks to friendly jabs thrown her way. In that way, her goodness is passed along to others. Most are not even aware they need the laughter permeating the room like a photographer is not aware of the need for mist over a scenic lake early in the morning as the sunrises, to increase the beauty and emotional connection captured in that moment.

Celebration with loved ones. Reminiscing about old times. Enjoying specially prepared foods and lovingly made cake for such an occasion and this. Being together, increasing bonds of love and friendship with family. And, spending time with others with the same or similar traits as yourself. It is a wonderful feeling to be accepted and loved for who you are. Birthdays are a fantastic opportunity to let others know you are thinking of and taking time to connect with them.

Happy birthday, everyone! May you all feel and/or spread love and happiness on your special day… whenever it is!

Grandpa was only TWO YEARS OLD!

Grandpa Francis

I have been working on family history. My favorite place to research is in old newspapers at Newspapers.com. I discovered that my grandpa had amazing parents and that he, himself, was an amazing human being. He had experienced a lot of loss at a young age, yet he did not grow up to be bitter or angry. He was authentic, sincere, and unpretentious. My mom said she never heard my grandpa and grandma argue. The were kind and patient people.

My grandpa, Francis, was two years old when his mom died at age 31, while giving birth to her third son, my grandpa’s baby brother. Francis’s older brother was about 7 years old when their mother and baby brother passed away.  

Grandpa Francis’s dad had gone blind and could not raise his two boys after his dear wife passed away. My grandpa and great uncle were sent to live with my great-grandmother’s parents. Grandpa’s dad (C. M.) went to a school for the blind after his wife passed away, where he learned how to live with his blindness. He learned how to tune pianos and was able to get by okay.

My grandpa was nine years old when his maternal grandfather died. He lived with his grandma until her passing when he was 25. He moved from Kansas to Idaho where he met and married my grandma a year later. She was 17 and he was 26. They raised 7 children together, worked hard, grew a garden each year, canned their own fruits and vegetables, loved their family, and each of them lived to be 90 years old. Neither of them drank alcohol. Grandpa was well-liked in the community, running the downtown “show-house” early on in their marriage and working for the City on the canals later in their marriage.

Grandma was quiet and busy with, cooking, canning and raising their children. She loved spending time with Grandpa, however, on coin-hunts, camping, and traveling back to Kansas so he could spend time with his brother and other family members from time to time.   

My grandparents have both passed away. My mom (turning 81 in 9 days) and her six younger siblings (the youngest turns 60 in October) are all still alive.

Counseling

What is the purpose? What good does it serve? Will it make any difference? It won’t change anything. Should it change anything? Or just change how I see things?

I have an appointment shortly. I have been wondering what to say, how to start, where to begin. I’ve asked myself what I want to accomplish with counseling. I want to be me. I want to figure out who I am. What do I want out of life? Am I happy? Am I going through motions? What does true joy feel like? I know what I believe long-lasting happiness is. Can we have joy now? Or do we need to wait for some time in the future?

Lots of questions and pondering. So, while I wait, this gives me a few minutes to write a blog post about asparagus. Yep! Asparagus!

My memories of Memorial Day weekend as a child are of my parents, siblings and grandparents driving to the cemeteries to pay respects to our great-grandparents and other family members who have passed on, and stopping along the way home to hunt asparagus on the ditch bank along the roadway. It is springtime, so the grassy ditch banks are always lush green, which made spying the asparagus a bit challenging, but did not deter us from finding and picking enough for Grandma to make a pot of her delicious cream of asparagus soup.

This is a family tradition. One I was so excited to share again this year! So, on Saturday of Memorial Day weekend, while my brother’s traditional rotisserie pork roast was cooking in the grill, my sister and niece and I drove to our secret ditch bank to pick some asparagus for soup with dinner. Only to discover much of it had been picked. But, we persisted in walking the ditch bank and searching for those hidden gems missed by the previous hunters. Our persistence paid off, and we took two large handfuls home.

There wasn’t time to make the soup for dinner, so I said I would make a pot of soup for mom and dad on Sunday. My dad was less than enthusiastic. Come to find out, my dad only ate it because his mom made it. It was ok, but not his favorite. My mom doesn’t like it at all. Neither does my sister or her family. Nor does my brother. What?!! All these years!! I had no idea!! I always felt like asparagus soup on Memorial Day tied our family together…the living to those who had passed on!!

Well, I made the pot of soup for my husband and six-year-old grandson. We ate all but half of a bowl of that deliciousness! My extended family may not like the soup, but Memorial Day weekend, for me, will always be synonymous with asparagus hunting, making soup, and family time. Both, on this side of heaven, and the other!

Park Bench

Something about a park bench

There is something about a park bench outdoors that can change a “down-in-the-dumps” kind of feeling to a feeling of appreciation for sunshine, blue sky, and a cool breeze. What a great smile!

Community Park is a great place to walk. Some of the people we saw this morning were young moms and dads pushing babies in strollers, two boys on bicycles racing down the hill, couples walking for exercise, and a young lady out walking three dogs together. Dog walker, maybe?

There is a place on one end of the park where a grove of aspen trees was planted several years ago. It is my favorite part of the park. It is a peaceful and quiet place to sit and ponder. Aspens trees are some of my favorites!

To Ride or Not to Ride?

That was the question that I asked myself for nearly an hour tonight before finally decided to go for a ride. My bicycle is over 25 years old. But I like it! So, I keep riding it. My husband and I bought the family bicycles when our kids were younger, so we could ride the nearby trail. We lived in the upper Midwest. The joke there was that the mosquitoes were the state bird. Riding on that trail made me a believer! Riding in the heat and humidity was not my favorite, then add the mosquitos to the mix, and I really was not a fan. We live in a western state now, so the humidity is not high, and the temperatures are much more comfortable for riding.

My sister lives in the same subdivision as I do, which is my great fortune. We get along well and enjoy riding bikes and going for walks in the neighborhood. Tonight, she and her husband went for a ride with me. It was a short ride, only about a mile or two, but enough to get out and enjoy the fresh evening air. I love it!

My only beef is the bike seat. Why does it have to be so small? I am not a small person. The lower half of my body seems to wrap itself right around the seat. Sometimes, I think people wonder if there is even a seat on the bike when I am riding.

“Look at that! She is riding her bike, but where is the seat?”

“My body swallowed it, OK?? Sheesh!” Oh goodness! The price we pay for exercising! 🙂